I Disagree with That

A study by More in Common, a group developing solutions to reduce social division, highlighted French society’s fractures on immigration to employment.

Need to Be Heard

First, understand that each of us wants to be heard and acknowledged. Each side should give the other the space to fully express their opinions and feelings. While it may be tempting to interrupt, don’t.

Ask Permission to Disagree

Find the appropriate time and place to disagree. If you disagree with a supervisor on their views, ask if you can disagree and if you can talk about it. Depending on the work culture, disagreeing openly may be negatively received. Consider setting up the discussion in a neutral environment and a quiet location, where both sides feel free to open up.

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Leave Drama at the Door

Sometimes it is easy for emotions to run high, particularly if we disagree with someone on social issues because we feel our identities are attacked. If our perspectives are influenced by political and religious beliefs or background, perhaps take a step back. What is the argument that is central to the dispute? Try not to make the argument personal.

Connect to Shared Goals

Identify what you have in common, mainly what shared goals you have. Imagine the conflict between engineering and product design teams. The former wants to test and ship as many features as possible before refining the customer experience because they believe lesser features will cause the team to lose customers. The product design team wants to refine the customer experience and delay the launch because they think it would be more challenging to attract customers after a bad experience.

Have Worthwhile Conversations

But not every disagreement needs to be talked about and resolved. While it can be fun to argue for the sake of pushing someone’s buttons, be prepared that things could get unpleasant unnecessarily. The debate is worth having if:

Who is Lynn?

Lynn Yap is the author of The Altruistic Capitalist and founder of Actv8 Network, an organization focused on increasing the inclusion of women in technology and innovation. She is passionate about working with businesses to do good for people and the planet. Follow her on Instagram @altruisticcapitalist or sign-up for updates at lynn@altruisticcapitalist.com. See her in action here: https://tinyurl.com/AltCapGlobalLaunch



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Founder of Actv8 Network to increase the inclusion of women in tech. Author of The Altruistic Capitalist, about creating sustainable and prosperous businesses.